Dealing With Anger

    Dealing with anger is never simple, since folks are always seeking out problems and reasons for conflict. We have to deal with increments, deflation, war, violence, crime, and daily basic duties with endless disruptions. There is not a single person in a rejected reality that has not become angry at some point. Anger is an emotion we all deal with. Anger comes in several phases, but the origin of anger is hatred as a result of a lie. This is true.

    When the first man and woman were made on the earth, the first noted problem was a snake in the form of the Devil that lied to, betraying the woman. Once the lie set forth, the world began enduring several problems, including violence, murder, war, shortages, pests, weather disasters etc.. Since the initial lie, the world has become disorderly and continues to decline as the years roll along. We can analyze how a lie can incite anger by looking at one individual.

    The person engaged in criminal actions, including stealing, writing bad checks, and selling prescription medications. Now this person had to work lying into the picture, since she felt that her behaviors and actions were just a source of endurance. Therefore, she was lying covering up her crimes. As the years grew the person became angry and unmanageable as a result of her behaviors, feelings, believing, etc.. The person began acting out as if any uncontrolled anger person would behave. This included, undermining others, insulting others verbally and physically, threatening, belittling, taunting, and so forth. 

    The woman was diagnosed with mental illnesses, including Post-traumatic Stress Disorder and manic depression. She also had health issues, including diabetes. Now we can look at all the aspects of the person’s anger, yet we can see if we search deep enough that her lying, which caused paranoia was the basis of her behavior problems. Many persons in the world have a problem with anger. Many of the persons with post-traumatic stress disorder often act out angrily reacting to a flashback.

    Persons with post-traumatic stress disorder often repress their emotions. When they are violent or angered it is often because they are fighting the source that caused their trauma and not the person in their present. Therefore, we do not see this as the problem of the woman’s anger, since she did not show signs of this in my presence. Therefore, I would exclude post-traumatic stress disorder, or at least minimize the symptoms.

   We can look at diabetes, since this illness affects the nerves. The shortage of insulin creates additional problems, and many with diabetes will become upset for little or no reason at all. However, most will not act out angrily assaulting or hurting another. Therefore, we can see that emotional problems are underlying the diabetes when they become aggressive.

    We can also look at the crimes committed and see that we have a serious behavioral problem that leads to lying. Therefore, when we look at this individual we have to deal with the underlying problems to stop her from lying and moving ahead, avoiding anger interruptions. Now, the person is in denial, which means that until the legal system makes her take steps to management, then she probably will not get help herself.

    In addition, even if the criminal system will force her to get help, it probably will not work, since her denial has been in existing for more than twenty-five years. Now we are dealing with a real anger problem, since the behaviors are life long, which means extensive therapy is needed.

    Anger is an emotion, but when it interferes with another person’s life, it is a serious problem. This person is not hurting one person, she is hurting everyone since when she steals or write bad checks, society pays with tax increases, as well as other increases.

    One of the biggest problems I noticed with this type of person is the system and society will allow continuing; only addressing it when someone is caught. Once the person is released then the person continues again. This is a chain of out of control management and anger.

The Making of Rage

    We can view anger in two different ways, but when anger hurts other people then we know it is rage, which is the root of evil. Rage is a fit of uncontrolled anger that comes out in a violent wrath and is a form of insanity. Anger, when raged, is an act of passion, or  raging emotions forced to act out on another source. Jealousy, hate, and greed are a few source of the emotional forces.

    Hate is an acute emotion that is stemmed from fear in all cases, which includes endangering and harming. The less severe threats are contempt, mortification, treachery and obstruction. Although the less severe can extend to a disorderly situation, it is less believable that an individual will become raged if someone is not harming them physically. Of course, this is an exception, because there are folks that will become raged over unproblematic affairs, including nothing at all.

    Borderline personality types will become infuriated once they sense abandonment, abused emotionally, or if they sense another person deceived them. Occasionally the person is accurate in their line of thought, but in several cases, they're not. For instance, if a person with borderline personality disorder is in a relationship and senses they are loosing control it is frequently because they feel abandoned or deceived. They will trace you down and hurt you if they feel in any event hurt because of your actions or behaviors. They will call the workplace many of times, or they will stalk you when you're at work.

    These types are often angered and the underlying origin is jealousy and greed. Anger has hatred at the roots automatically, whether a person is acting out appropriately or not. For example, if a person hates something that another person does, they might handle the situation appropriately by letting them know that they hate what the person has done.

    A person with unmanageable anger differs, merely because they don't always necessary hate what a person is doing, instead they hate people generally. This is when anger becomes fatal. Another type of rage can be envisioned in personality types, including narcissistic types or paranoid personality types. These people consider that they're a particular breed of people and everyone else is below them. This type of thought is recognized as Grandiosity.

    This makes the individuals superficial because they are in an delusional frame of mind. The individuals emotions and notions are normally contrived and sustain zero evidence for purpose. NOTE: paranoiac schizophrenia type frequently behave harmful on several different levels. Because of the difference in anger showed, it makes it challenging to determine when these types are unbalanced.

    For example, a paranoid schizophrenia may have a history of violence, but it is short-lived, while other demeanor's are more detectable. During the more adolescent portion of a paranoid schizophrenia life is when they are most combative however, since their level of anger is unpredictable it pays to stay aware when dealing with this type.

    If you are trying to understand rage or anger, you can read the history of murders, rape, vandalism, and other related crimes. Read through the fine lines and you will see hate, greed, jealousy and rage completely united. Rarely does a person that attacks another individual have justifiable cause. When a person acts out on his or her emotion, typically the root is hatred. Then again, if another mistreats a person repeatedly they may act out in rage. This person is reacting to anger that has built up over a period of time. The person may not hate the source that caused all the hurt, which made them react, but may not recognize this until it's too late.

    If you would like to see anger built up over a period of time, then read the numerous stories of women that have been abused by a mate for a number of years. The making of rage is seen in sequences where a person has been endlessly abused, while uncontrolled anger lies inside the mind of the mentally ill. Alcohol and substance abuse represents another role in uncontrolled anger, however it is not true that everyone that acts out in rage is a substance abuser.

Why Am I Angry?

    We all asked this question at some point in our lifetime. The best way to answer is to ask the person to reach deep in their own mind and search for the answers. Having full control of your life is virtually impossible, since we all have bosses. This causes anger for some of us, since we may have endured a life with a controlling person, or parent.

    We all have rules to follow and this often discourages people when they see certain rules are ridiculous. We may live with our family and at times, someone gets on our nerves. We may work and feel that the job is just not happening, and wish we had a better position in life. We may go to school and someone is bullying us, or else intimidating us emotionally. There are many reasons a person is angry and all the listed are justifiable for anger to occur.

    What matters is how we learn to cope with our anger. Either we can take the path to destruction or we can wonder off down the road to success. Either way you are going to feel anger, since the road to success has many bumpy areas. However, the road to destruction has rocky roads ahead that will not only anger you, but others.

    Since anxiety and depression according to scientists, play a large role in anger we can look at a few ideas to see if any may work for you. If you have severe anxiety attacks you may want to consult a therapist and ask for Buspirone, which has minimal side affects for treating anxiety. If you suffer from depression, you may want to ask your therapist about the variety of serotonin-specific reuptake inhibitors that are risk free. Natural herbs, including Kava Kava are great for relieving anxiety, stress and depression also. If you are not into pills, you may want to exercise and go on a healthy diet to build your body’s cells, tissues, insulin, and so on.

    Once you’re healthy you will notice a difference in your attitude, which is a primary function of the anger. If you have a hard time exercising, try to start out slow and work your way up to a good schedule. You may also want to write down your feelings, emotions, and thoughts and sort through the details each time you finish. If you have children and they are getting on your nerves, you might want to take a break. Ask a trustworthy family member or friend if they could take the children for a day or two. If you get a break, try relaxing your mind by using Yoga techniques. Or else spend your time doing something that you enjoy doing.

    Walking is also great for relieving tension and stress. Tension and stress affects the emotions, which increases your chances of exploding out of anger. If you feel stressed go visit your best friend and talk about nothing. Enjoy a day on the beach or a night on the town. Maybe you worked hard all week and the stress is now catching up to you. Go to the store and buy yourself something affordable and nice, rewarding yourself for a hard week of work. Each time you do something good, be sure to reward yourself since this promotes positive thinking.

    If you screw up then do not bang your head, rather tell yourself you are human and will make mistakes. Learn from your mistakes and move ahead. If you are in a relationship and your mate is a jerk do not be afraid to confront him or her. Let them know that their behavior is unacceptable and you will not tolerate these continuing habits. There is nothing wrong with defending your honor and there is nothing wrong with addressing your problems, providing you do it without exploding out of anger. If you are having financial difficulties you might want to run to the library and take out a book on credit repair. You will find many solutions that can bring relief to your life. Controlling your anger means controlling your life also.

Evaluating Anger

    When we evaluate our thoughts and emotions, we can often find the answers to our problems. If you are prone to erupt when your emotions are threatened, it might be you are acting irrationally in most instances. When we evaluate we are studying the value, solution, and significance of the particular problem. When we evaluate our mind slows down and thinks before it acts. If you are lacking in this area you might want to start practicing now since anger only leads to real problems.

    Not containing your emotions and letting them get out of control with your  anger in action will increase your chances of failure and reduce your way in life.  Decisions are an everyday part of life. If you are evaluating your life and making good decisions, you will almost never get off the course of life’s journey to success. On the other hand, we must realize when we are evaluating life, problems will arise and we must face these problems head on. Keeping a good outlook on life can help you deal with your anger.

    Let’s take a look at hypothetical mountains for instance. If you realize there is no mountain we cannot cross over, then we can see a way out of trouble. If we are crossing a mountain, we know we need tools, rope, confidence, and a strategy to climb over. Likewise, if we are dealing with anger then we need tools, strategy, confidence and hope to endure the road to recovery. The rope only comes in play if you decide to tie yourself up and end up not managing your anger and emotions properly.

    Think of life as a roller coaster ride where there will be bumps along the way. In reality, the ride is intense, exciting and challenging. If you are challenging the potentials by evaluating your anger and emotions, you are taking control of a rocky situation. Again, most our problems are stemmed from our own decisions and if we learn to stop and think before acting we probably will have less problems along the road to life.

    If you feel like you are loosing control stop and think. Take a few deep breaths and gather your thoughts and emotions. Review the situation in front of you to see if there is a better way to deal with the problem. The only real way that anger becomes useful is if you are in a situation that is risky and there are no way out. For example, if you are in a fight and the person refuses to comply with your positive behavior then it is obvious something has to give since the other person is not reasonable. We can think of anger as a good force or bad force to see if that anger either benefits or leads to a major problem in our life.